April 29, 2024
Psychotherapist Glass debuts with a searing account of coming to terms with her homosexuality as an ultra-Orthodox Jew. At 19, Glass was teaching at a religious girl’s school in Brooklyn’s Borough Park neighborhood when she met and fell in love with Dassa. The pressures of secrecy snuffed out the women’s brief romance, and Glass entered an arranged marriage with a man named Yossi in the early 2000s. The couple had two children, but Glass felt increasingly frustrated by their lack of passion, and she eventually left Yossi when he refused to let her pursue a PhD in social work. She enrolled in a graduate program, married another man, and carefully maintained her strict Hasidic community’s rituals of observance so she could keep seeing her children. After obtaining her degree, Glass finally came out of the closet, divorced her second husband, and moved to Manhattan with her children. She suffuses the narrative with astonishing empathy for the people and forces that stood between her and liberation, and few readers will be unmoved by the depth of her struggle or the strength of her resistance. This leaves a mark. Agent: Harvey Klinger, Harvey Klinger Literary.
May 1, 2024
A New York City psychotherapist tells the story of how she broke away from orthodox Judaism to come into her own as a successful lesbian professional. Glass grew up in Brooklyn as a member of the ultraorthodox GurHasidic sect. The girls she knew celebrated marriage and a life dedicated to God, their husbands, and their children. However, the author, who had her first lesbian relationship at 19, knew that "the last thing I wanted was to live with a boy for the rest of my life." Still, she married Yossi, the first young man who passed her family's scrutiny, just before she turned 20 and then began to express her unconventionality by seeking a university education and advanced degrees. Inevitably, though, "the walls between my universes sank through the ground" as she struggled with the demands of her professional work and her life as a wife tied to a man and religion that made her feel like little more than chattel. Against her family's wishes, she divorced Yossi and quietly began experimenting with secular life and complex relationships with both women and men. One man, Eli, became both her second husband and "most enthusiastic cheerleader" as she pursued her doctorate. "He stuck around, found my wounds and sewed them up one by one," she writes. Eventually, her hard-won self-knowledge helped her overcome one final hurdle when she fought Yossi and orthodox religious laws to keep her children and school them in ways that would give them power over their own lives. "I married the man I was told was best for me and was stuck with consequences that would last my entire lifetime," she writes. "I didn't want that for my children." Searching and provocative, this book chronicles a woman's struggle with faith and freedom while also celebrating the necessity of personal choice. A courageously candid memoir.
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May 15, 2024
Love takes many forms, including love for oneself, a partner, family, community, and God. But what happens when these come into conflict? Glass addresses this question in her memoir. As an Orthodox Jewish woman, she was expected to finish her education, get married, and bear and raise children. Despite her initial desire to meet these goals, Glass fell deeply in love with another woman, breaking a strict taboo. She married a man whom she barely knew, hoping to quash these feelings and earn a PhD in psychology, but her husband pushed her toward abandoning her dream. In the wake of her divorce, remarriage, and all that followed, Glass struggled with what she truly wanted, eventually becoming and embracing her authentic self. As Glass recounts her journey to personal liberation, she tracks how many of the conventions that governed her life, traditions that feel archaic, defined and chained her. Readers interested in LGBTQ+ lives and narratives exploring the connections among religion, psychology, and sexuality will greatly enjoy this intimate, deeply moving read.
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